Everyone has a gauge, a measurement of how they judge people. Some people gauge based on past experiences. Most people gauge based on who they are and their ideas, knowledge, and intention. For example, if you go to the doctor you assume that the doctor knows what's wrong with you and can give you medicine or recommendations about how to get well. No one expects to go to the doctor and leave without knowing something about their condition. In the same way that we have expectations for people in professions we have expectations for people in our social/personal lives.
My personal gauge for example thinks everyone has pretty good intentions until they say something fucked up. We all think that people are somewhat like us. The reason most people get fucked in life is because they assume people are like them. They gauge with the idea that people have good intentions because they have good intentions. They think that because they like you, you like them. You're parents may have raised you to do things a certain way. & you think everyone else is that way BUT they're NOT! I'm early for everything, my parents are early people, not everyone else is early. Most people have no sense of promptness at ALL. It used to bother me SO much, now I realize that's just them. Now let's go a step farther and apply this to romantic relationships.
