New Shoes & Naming Puppies

I'm a simply girl. I don't buy new shoes often maybe one pair every 6 weeks BUT most times I buy them & wear them once.

It's kind of like men. I buy new shoes (new-ness) every 6 weeks, I start texting maybe calling but by week 4 I usually tap out. I get bored or they seem more ugly it's always something! But then there's those comfort shoes those slippers no one ever sees you in! Those are the best! Which leads me to naming puppies.

Just Move On

How to get over someone? The only conclusion I could find.

People always tell you to move on. Like it's the easiest shit in the world. But it's not!

I always wonder how I do the stuff I do. In retrospect like how did I change my grandpa's diapers? The thought is just yuck to me! But I did it daily. You do what needs to be done when it's time. If you don't have the strength it's given to you but you have to want it real bad.
So how do you get over someone you once loved? You un-love em thats all! Lol! No really! You start dwelling on the hurt, eventually you realize that only makes you hurt more. Then you vent & eventually you realize that only makes you vent more! Then something happens. You get a hobby or an interest. You discover something & it changes your days. Most people have a routine & if love was a part of that routine something is now missing. So to fill the void you do something. The first thing is probably a bust. But the next thing is that thing!!

The worst thing anyone can ever do is dwell on what they don't enjoy/love! If something hurts think about something that doesn't hurt. My favorite analogy for all things heart break involved is "Remember your first love & how bad it hurt when they left? You got over it didn't you? & you keep getting over things. It's not the end of the world"
But then what if it's not that serious!? What if the person you have sex with has someone new?

You didn't love them! That's first! Second, you don't really "need" them per say. So, you devote the time you used to spend with them to a hobby. Read books, get drinks with friends, write a blog! Call an old friend! Whatever you do don't dwell on getting dumped. & eventually it gets easier then before you know it... New fuck buddy!!!!

Another Jake: A big dick without a brain

I haven't really had the desire to blog about my sex life. But after stumbling upon this new site Single Girl in the Suburbs I thought hmmm writing about fun stuff is fun. Don't get excited it's not that awesome.
As with most men I like he's gorgeous! His physical features make my mouth water in a frightening way. I think my dream man looks like him & I never knew it. So, I watched him for a month in my typical stalker fashion. Then when the moment came I said hi. Nothing major! Random text convo for a few months, fucked on the first date. Typical me shit!

But it's not my fault! He's generic. He's gorgeous. He's a whore. He likes what every other black 20 something man likes, he dresses like everyone else, his interest are basic, his upbringing was just like everyone elses. I tried I PROMISE I tried, I talked to him about my interest, hobbies and some random pop culture references. He didn't know SHIT!!! When a guy says "Damn you smart like you know everything", he automatically moves from romantic interest to "oh yeah he fucks good".  He wants to be popular because that's what everyone else does. While his appearance is refreshing everything is a yawn. He's so unoriginal I didn't even bother giving him his own nickname. Just another Jake... But no lie the dick is great.

Kim Jones

Funny story I explain everything but I didn't explain this...

Kim Jones (trev-intion)-- A lifestyle that commands respect; to be sexual without having sex; to run shit; to be original; to never give anyone elses words power over your life; to say nasty shit because I can; to be considered a slut because of what you say not the number of people you've been with

Now, many are confused and some ask why I call myself Kim Jones. Some people think it's me paying respect to Kim & Sam Jones BUT Kim's last name is Jones. To understand what I mean when I say Kim Jones, you have to first understand the history of women in rap & hip hop. In the beginning, women acted as men with no sexual identity. Salt & Peppa changed all that. They owned their sexuality not a slutty way but in a way that said I'm a woman I have sex it's not your business & you have no right to judge me. Around the same time, Queen Latifah was telling men to respect her mind because she was more than a pussy. Yo-yo was telling dudes we could play the same games they could but no woman ever said suck my dick.