The Dichotomy of Self

Websters defines dichotomy as something with seemingly contradictory qualities.

People (self included) judge you based on your views but most of us are two people. When judging it's so easy to forget how complex we are as people. Almost everyone I know has a moral conscious side that is a truly good person. That person has a strong relationship with their family & spirituality. That's the person people want to show most often. While that side isn't super cool outside Sunday morning. It's the person everyone really wants to be.
On the other hand those same people have a vice! For some it's sex (ME!) for others it's partying and alcohol, for most it's an obsession with materialism. & all of those things combined can be a vice too. It's this part of you that feels so good!!! It's wrong it's dead wrong BUT it's so GOOD. It's glamorized in pop culture. Everything we see says "Give into your vice. Vice is sexy. You wanna be sexy don't you? You want people to like you!!" It sucks so much!!

How can one be considered real or fake when everyone is multi-dimensional?

Gauge...

I feel like I've blogged this. Maybe I have. Maybe I haven't... Oh well read it again.

Everyone has a gauge, a measurement of how they judge people. Some people gauge based on past experiences. Most people gauge based on who they are and their ideas, knowledge, and intention. For example, if you go to the doctor you assume that the doctor knows what's wrong with you and can give you medicine or recommendations about how to get well. No one expects to go to the doctor and leave without knowing something about their condition. In the same way that we have expectations for people in professions we have expectations for people in our social/personal lives.

My personal gauge for example thinks everyone has pretty good intentions until they say something fucked up. We all think that people are somewhat like us. The reason most people get fucked in life is because they assume people are like them. They gauge with the idea that people have good intentions because they have good intentions. They think that because they like you, you like them. You're parents may have raised you to do things a certain way. & you think everyone else is that way BUT they're NOT! I'm early for everything, my parents are early people, not everyone else is early. Most people have no sense of promptness at ALL. It used to bother me SO much, now I realize that's just them. Now let's go a step farther and apply this to romantic relationships.

I was thinking (ran-dumb)

1. Love is inconsistent.
2. Does anyone NOT cheat?
3. Growing up is hard
4. Why is the glorification of ignorance so normalized?
5. Women used to dress nice so men would take them on dates because their families couldn't afford food.. circa 1920s that intrigued me
6. How many things do we do on a regular basis without realizing how it started?
7. Why do we assume people are a certain way by the way they dress or talk? It's amazing how conditioned we are.
8. Forward texts make my nerves ba.
9. Does monogamy in our 20s exist?
10. Why is it that some people are way easier to talk to than others?
11. People are not perfect so in turn relationships aren't perfect (something everyone knows yet forgets)
12. Is the truth really the manipulation of lies?
13. When do people decide to just settle?
14. The things we consume mentally tend to cause more harm than good.
15. Why is it so easy to focus on things we can't change??